Love = A bad investment?

What is love?

I used to think that love is a mutual, shared feeling. Like the feeling a parent feels for their child and the child reciprocates without condition.

Alas, after 34 years of life experience, I have to say that that's not the case. 

Love seems to be more like a childish game, involving a lot of one-sided, selfish demands. Things like wanting attention, acknowledgement, sex, financial or material support/reward.

Why is it like this? Has it always been this way? If yes, why is Hollywood and Co trying to tell us lies about a romantic love that is a really bad, one-sided risk?

These days, as a guy, what is it that we want?

Sex? 

Sure, some guys seem to live for just that. But that's not all of us. And even those who chase sex get lonely and want some constants. Guys are human too, we hope for company or someone who understands us and makes us feel wanted and appreciated.

So wouldn't it be fair if in return for providing that, a guy would receive that, without expiration date?

But women lose interest quickly and easily. Oddly enough, they don't like guys that don't pose a challenge. 

Sure, they might "love" a guy for some time. But that's until the novelty wears off and they stop "loving" him.

Personally, I don't think women can love men unconditionally. There might be very few exceptions who can, but those women in my opinion are women who think and feel like men. 

I can't speak for all men and I am not trying to say men are better (they aren't), but it's been proven scientifically that men suffer more(and longer) from break-ups or divorce. 

I never knew a man who cared about the social status, job or education of a girl. They just wanted either a pretty or a nice girl (or both). And they didn't care if the girl has money.

Now women...well, they do care. And they shouldn't. Why does it matter how much a guy earns or what his job or status is, if you love him as a person? And if not, would you like it if a guy loved you for your tits, your cash or your penthouse? And would dump you if you didn't have it?

Real intimacy and closeness happens if we make ourselves completely vulnerable, if we bare our soul to another person. Can you do that? Can you share every pro and con with someone else, trusting them not to judge or use it against you? If not, why?

I often heard from women they don't want to get hurt. Well, guess what, neither do men:). But if neither side is willing to take a risk, nothing will happen.

The number of women who are single or divorced in their 40s, 50s, 60s keeps rising. Men too. It seems that relationships are now simply seen like an investment:

With the least possible risk and effort, people want the highest yield. 

I blame this partially on instant gratification (google it if you don't know the term). People have been spoiled. Our grandparents didn't have all these options and choices, that's why their relationships lasted. Was it all perfect? No. Would they have broken up if they lived today? Most likely. 

But even all you people who are in relationships now or married and it's been 5 years or 10...are you sure it will last forever? I doubt it. One side (almost always the guy) has to make more compromises and eventually, that side will get tired of it(or the other side will). 

I do believe in men and women as yin and yang. As two halves, creating one complete whole. But it seems that's a pipe dream. You can call me bitter, misogynistic or nihilistic. But it's what I've seen and experienced countless times. And it sickens me. It's just so immature of us to let our patty insecurities and selfish emotions get the best of us and destroy our chance to find happiness WITH someone without the constant fear that they might leave us tomorrow, although we were married 47 years. 

Love is a feeling. But it can also be a choice. If you think you love someone, how can you feel like one day, you don't? That just means you never loved that person to begin with and lied to yourself. Or you still love them and are just too lazy or afraid to continue, because routine set in. But guess what... that routine... that's a sign of a good investment...