Chungking Express (and why you shouldn't be afraid of people who know what they feel)

I was watching Chungking Express today. The main character was just dumped by his girlfriend, May on April 1st. In pain and desperation, he decides to buy 30 cans of pineapple (May loved Pineapple) that all expire May 1st. If by then, May didn't come back or contact him, their love "expired".

While waiting, he ponders why everything has expiration dates. Why do we throw away things that still work or function? Why do people end relationships that worked for quite some time? 

And how can people's feelings change so easily? In my life, whenever I liked someone or even loved them, my feelings for them NEVER just changed! I literally can not understand how that is possible, unless those feelings someone felt were never true to begin with. It always took me years or at least months to let go and move on if someone broke up with me (and except once, I never broke with someone) and after I agreed to be with someone, even if I felt frustrated sometimes if there were the same issues, I never wanted to quit or give up. 

Love and true feelings can't expire. If they can, they aren't real. And if they aren't real, I think we don't really feel true love. Just something we mistake for love or we mimic love. 

In the second story of the movie, a policeman and his true love with his girlfriend, a stewardess is shown. The stewardess leaves him and he can't forget her, feels reminded of her through gifts she gave him (like stuffed animals) and he can't give a chance to another girl named May he often sees at a diner he visits.

This May is in love with him and starts to break into his place. Step by step, she replaces the gifts the ex gave him with new gifts by her, removes the hair the ex left behind and thus forces the police man to move on. I admire that. It's never easy to let go (I think especially for men, we seem to be far more sentimental and sensitive in that department), but what often holds us back is probably all the memories and the feelings that are still there. I read that men fall slower, but deeper in love, while women fall faster, but fall out of love faster too. Now this is just a general study/knowledge, but it's a match with what I saw myself or with friends. 

Maybe it's because there aren't too many people these days who even are serious anymore? Maybe because guys can be surprisingly sensitive (and at least some women surprisingly insensitive?). 

Of course I don't say guys are better, women are worse. But there just seem to be differences. I think I never knew any woman who really fought for a relationship that would have been good for her (only for bad ones). It's usually the men who do (those that are serious will. Those that don't care are guys who never cared about you to begin with or who just want sex). 

All I can say, all that the movie reminded me of or made crystal-clear to me is:

Know your true feelings! Don't easily let something go that could turn out to be a huge loss for you! You may NEVER in your life find such a person again, even if you thought they're troublesome at the time. But only people who care about you will care enough to bring up unpleasantness and will be brave enough to open their hearts for you. And that's why those people suffer a lot if you punish their courage and don't dare to take that risk together. But what more can or will anyone ever do for you, if not that?